When you are challenged in your life or when you are doted upon with kind words, what is the script you tell others?

Challenge: This always happens to me. This is the story of my life. Figures. I should have seen that coming. I want to trade my life with someone else. This was all a huge mistake. I can't do anything right. The world hates me.

Kindness: It was nothing. No, it doesn't look that great. You are too kind. Stop, you are embarrassing me. It's not mine, I borrowed it. No, no, no.



Within all of these words - which we can mistake for modesty - what is the real underlying meaning?

What if I told you, you are correct. You are not good enough. Instead, You are amazing. You are great. You are a miracle. You blow my mind. You inspire me. You challenge me.

Consciously, and usually unconsciously, we have scripts that run through our heads with nary a thought before or after them. These scripts, which often were planted in our formative years by parents, teachers, and other people in power, can put us on a distinctive path in our life.

Barely lit with doubt and insecurity, we may meekly walk one path only to constantly stumble in our indecision. Floating along, not wanting to make waves but desperately needing everyone to like us and further validate our existence.

Or, we were gifted with self-assurance, a secure landing spot, and wings to soar. This path is lit from all directions - within and without - by self-love, critical thinking, personal accountability and a deep source of compassion.

I don't believe these are the only two paths. And I don't believe our life follows one or the other, nor are we locked in to one particular path. Life is ever-evolving; It is change. Everything is temporary.

The scripts that play in your head, the words you barely even hear or register, are also temporary. They are only in existence because on a deep level you believe them.


I challenge you to bring your scripts to the surface. Look at them. Chat with them. Examine them. Do they serve you any longer? Replace the ones that no longer serve you with meaningful affirmations. You will find your scripts will begin changing.

There is massive power in affirmations and changing the words we tell ourselves. Ask anyone who has been in an abusive relationship. The abuser rarely begins the abuse by physical beating. Instead, the abuser starts planting seeds of self-doubt by using words. It doesn't take long for a person to deeply believe these words, and remain unaware of what's really going on.

Today I Vow to examine the scripts I commonly use when speaking to others and when speaking to myself. I will choose one script to replace by using an affirmation.